And now everything is just fine.

I read a post of a friend.
It's here.

She always has an evolving blogging process to admire.
She's asking such a great thing, that we not lord our successes over one another.

For example, a colleague may say that he or she isn’t having a problem behaviorally or academically with the student in question.  And, that is often where the conversation ends for that particular student.  Rather than end the conversation at this juncture, let’s take it to the next level: If a teacher is having success with a particular student, he or she should be asked to SHARE what’s working.  Keeping such information to oneself makes a teacher look and sound superior.  Moreover, it shuts down a conversation which is about the students, and not about the teacher.  Let’s encourage each other to NOT be that teacher by asking our colleagues what they are doing to contribute to the success of kids with whom other teachers on the team may be struggling.

It is extremely irritating to work in an environment that praises someone succeeding with a child that another struggled with the year before. Say if awarding the teacher as teacher of the month, (an odd process held once every few years). To cite a success with a student implying the previous year's teacher was less. Of course that's a leadership issue, sorting out winners and losers, and insisting on negation, but I do find teachers saying, "I have no problem with him/her," to be utterly rude.

Sometimes I am good with particular kids. I'd like to share why.
At other times I think-how come they were functioning well for teacher x and not for me? But I work in an environment where I absolutely cannot express anything.
It really might be my years in the job, or my personal journey, but it seems totally unimportant to me if another has cracked the nut-what I'd like is help doing a good job with the child too.

Her post made me think.